Four Ways to Face Anxiety Step by Step — Time + Space Solutions

Four New Ways To Approach Anxiety

Sheryl Paul writes in her book “The Wisdom Of Anxiety” that it’s important to approach anxiety from an inward place and stresses these four elements:

  1. Curiosity — take distance from the intense feelings and emotions that come up and observe with curiosity. What is it telling me? When did this start? What was I like before ….happened? This will help you approach it from a learning and kindness angle rather than judgement.
  2. Compassion — This means having loving and kind self-talk. It’s accepting where you are without judgement and being present enough to know it won’t last.
  3. Stillness — When we are in high speed mode it takes us away from our bodies, being aware of our thoughts and noticing what triggers us. Being still slows everything down, helping us catch vital information that can play a role in our transformations.
  4. Gratitude — I talk about having a gratitude journal often and the overall benefits it has on our wellbeing and mental health. Here gratitude means being grateful for what our anxiety tries to communicate and the role it plays in our growth.

What Normal Anxiety Looks Like

We get anxious when we don’t have the tools for a future situation. And that’s because we don’t actually know what we will need at that moment because it hasn’t happened yet. We tend to worry about something that is related to a specific situation or problem, this is totally normal! When this happens it lasts only as long as the situation or problem.

When Anxiety Takes Over

The red flags for when anxiety has become more than thoughts and nervousness to solve a specific problem are:

  1. The anxiety response to a situation or problem may be much stronger than they would expect
  2. They may experience a lot of unrealistic anxiety, such as fear of a situation that likely will never happen
  3. Anxiety may last for a long time, even when the situation or problem has been resolved
  4. Anxiety may feel impossible to control or manage
  5. They may avoid situations or things that they believe to trigger anxiety symptoms

Now What?

A way to get started is to take an inventory of what’s changed. Some great questions you can ask yourself to get more clarity and direction on how to engage with your anxiety are:

  1. What was your lifestyle like before your anxiety took over? How has it changed in the way you spend your time and the things you do?
  2. What are your beliefs around your fears and do you justify them?
  3. What changes in behaviour have you noticed since you had these repetitive thoughts?
  4. How have your thoughts changed toward your fear? What were they like before?

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Time + Space Solutions

Time + Space Solutions

I live with intention and purpose and want to help others do the same. Living this way improves my relationship with my time, space and choices.